February 26, 2014
In last week’s newsletter, I shared some of the recent research about positive psychology and happiness. I talked about two important concepts in relationship to happiness; the first was about not equating a future success with achieving happiness (think getting a job, finding a relationship, losing weight) and the second was about breaking the belief that our external world predicts our success. Remember the startling statistic that 90% of our long term happiness comes from how our brain processes our world, not from what we have in our world?
Well, today I want to follow up with what I consider to be the best news about the research on happiness. That is that happiness is achieved more from training our brains to think positive than it is from the result of achieving or attaining something in our lives.
Our most common assumption Hard work = success = happiness is not only wrong, it’s actually backwards.Happiness is not the result, but actually the precursor to achieving success!
So, here is the REAL Skinny…The happier you allow yourself to be within your current circumstances (and yes struggles), the more likely you are to attain the success you want (think job, relationship, weight loss, etc).
Doing one positive habit daily, like eight minutes of meditation, journaling for two minutes about a positive experience, or writing a positive email to a friend, have all proved to significantly increase happiness!
Training your brain to be grateful is also a powerful happiness booster! Gratitude is the recognition that the present can make you happy instead of waiting for a future event. Just by thinking of three things you are grateful for over the course of 21 days you can significantly raise your level of optimism!
Oh happy day…I do love positive research!
Food for the Soul…
“My mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I was 5 years old, I went to school, and they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I answered ‘happy.’ They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”
Are you singing what I’m signing? Happy Days are here again…