Values in Weight Management?

A weekly message to strengthen your CORE and develop your resolve. 
May 7,  2014
Girl Eating Apple Why work on values in weight management? Simple – you cannot separate you from eating. To shift from the ever frustrating place of “trying” to lose weight to successful weight management (getting REAL with your Skinny), we must engage our heart and work with purpose.

Values are our deepest most powerful centering force. Studies show that when we connect at the values level change happens 10x faster and with a more sustained impact than if we try to merely change things on the surface.

Here is what I mean. I worked with a client that struggled with her weight from childhood. She had tried every diet available to man (sound familiar??). When she came to me, she had never had anyone approach weight management by talking about her, rather than which foods she should or shouldn’t eat. When we identified her values of authenticity, living with purpose, and integrity – immediately, a light bulb went off! “I totally resist with every cell in my body being told by someone else when and what to eat. It feels controlling and I hate it. It conflicts with my need to live with integrity and to be true to myself. Their diet is NOT my diet. My resistance and resentment toward being told what to eat has been holding me back my whole life.” A shift in approach made all the difference. Today she is stronger, more confident, more connected… and oh yea, 30 pounds lighter!
There are typically 3 types or levels of values:
  1. The Superficial Should’s – These are values that come from things we think we should believe, do, or act in accordance with. These are usually messages learned from authority figures when we were young, media, or culture. When unexamined in our lives, these values create chaos when we use them as a basis for critical decisions.
  2. Chosen Values – these are values that resonate with us personally based on our experiences. We select them as important to fulfill and work to act in accordance with them as consistently as possible.
  3. CORE Values – these are the three to five critically important personal values we hold that define who we are and our intrinsic worth. It’s impossible to lead a fulfilling life that is out of alignment with our core values.
Values in weight management? You bet. Take a look at your values again and see the type of values you are working with. Can you identify your CORE values? If you need some help, drop me an email and I will send you a worksheet.
A little work on the front side makes all the difference on the backside!

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“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.”

~ Roy Disney

Yes, pun intended!
Until next week… Be good to yourself!

About the Author:

Mary Fox, LMHC, RD challenges the traditional approach to weight management to help people discover their path to success. As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Registered Dietitian, she combines both disciplines into a unique and comprehensive approach that is changing the way we understand weight management.

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